Sensate focus is a technique used to improve intimacy and communication between partners around sex, reduce sexual performance anxiety, and shift away from ingrained, goal-oriented sexual patterns that may not be serving a couple. The technique, developed by Dr. William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson in the 1960s, consists of a series of touching exercises that a couple completes in a sequence. A major aim of the exercise is for the partners to let go of their expectation

Menstrubation stands for menstruation and masturbation — and it could be key to making your periods more bearable. First, let’s get the obvious question out of the way: What the heck is “menstrubation”? For the uninitiated ― which probably includes most of us ― the phrase combines the words menstruation and masturbation. To menstrubate is to masturbate when you’re in the throes of PMS and your period. Read more here.

I hope that from reading this, you can start to see the skill sets that lie underneath the umbrella of “skillful sexual communication”: The art of identifying what you want and then making inviting requests. The skill of not taking things personally when other people can’t give it to you — knowing that that doesn’t reflect anything about the validity for YOUR ask. The power of knowing what’s really an authentic juicy YES for you… and how to give yourself permission to follow